Are you a people-pleaser?

It is not bad, but you should protect yourself from its side effects.

Stop being a people-pleaser (Photo by Priscilla Du Preez from Unsplash)

I have an extremely helpful friend who cares for others. She always prefers to work for others and tries to find solutions to their problems. She always has a smile on her face. She tries to spread happiness around her. She respects the elders as well as the younger ones. She is leading the ideal life in terms of others.

She is my friend so I know her well. She used to express herself in front of me only. She is not happy every time. She cries also when she is upset. She gets hurt when other people disturb her peace of mind. She is very sensitive. She is a people pleaser which she is unaware of. I will share some qualities of a people-pleaser here:

1. They try to make everyone around us happy.
2. They can’t say “No” easily.
3. If anyone around them is sad or crying, they feel guilty.
4. They try to take responsibility for others very easily.
5. They do not share their sorrows with others easily.
6. They smile always.

We all know at least one such person in our circle. These kinds of people are very sensitive. If we know anyone around us is helpful and caring then we also must behave well with them. People with a good heart are very less in number nowadays. If we will keep on trying to take advantage of these, then how we will set the standards for a good personality and a good society.

This was one point of view. Now, let's shift our focus to another side. If you are such a kind of person then what you should do to protect yourself from the harshness of the world.

1. Help others but don’t harm yourself.
2. Listen to others but don’t give anyone that space where they take you lightly.
3. Care for others but stand for yourself too.
4. Don’t do anything that will affect your family and your relationship with them.
5. If you are not comfortable doing anything just don’t do that. Very Simple.
6. Say “No” to others when you feel the need.
7. When you think you are exhausted, take a break and care for yourself.

It is not bad that you are a people pleaser and love to care for them but while doing this, most of the time, you forgot your comfort level and harm yourself which is not good and acceptable to your mind and body. You should have your duty towards yourself first. Try to respect your mind and body. Make yourself a priority. Help others and yourself too.