Friends: Stand by your side/Complain about your every side? Think!
I have seen a few friends of mine who are always there in complaining mode. Ohh!, Pardon, actually, those are not friends; just people. Hahaha!
A girl who is innocent, sweet, beautiful, and also smart, met me after a long time, by the way, she was one of my close friends. We were doing chit-chat in a cafe. It was an amazing place surrounded by lush green trees, and inside the cafe, there were dim lights and lots of amazing and mind-blowing books. The environment there was cozy and it can boost anyone’s mood in a better way. Coming back to the point, indeed she was good-looking but nobody can even guess what was happening behind her beautiful and smiling face. She was in depression and had faced numerous health issues. She always had a smile on her face and welcomed everyone with a warm heart. But, deep inside she was struggling with the reality of this world. I asked her the reason, and she was struggling with her nature to please everyone around her since her childhood. But now, she is in big trouble. Her habit of pleasing everyone has overtaken her life to the extent that she is not able to replenish her good relations just because of some bad relations.
So, this is the message to all those who feel the same way.
Dear, I will not say that this world is a bad place or it has its harsh side too. But one has to admit that we, as human beings are different in nature. We are made up of the combination of three Gunas; satvic, rajasic, and tamasic. The varied proportion decides the person’s nature or quality. So, we cannot fight with anyone and cannot prove ourselves to them. So, learn to LET Go.
It is obvious that we will have a conflict with so many people in this world. It is not at all important to resolve the conflict always. Sometimes, it is best to keep it unresolved with the other person, whose Guna is opposite of ours.
But, yes, we need to move on in our lives and be in the company of those whose Guna is similar to ours.
It is also obvious that we have to be present in those circles where we do not belong. But how much importance we should give, how much time we should invest, how much energy we should spend, and to what extent we should exchange our thoughts with them is dependent on us.
Therefore, try to invest your time, mind, and thoughts in those, with whom you feel like you belong. It is very easy to just do time pass with our circle or friends, but in long run, it can cause serious trouble to your thoughts, and then moving on would be next to impossible. Avoid those relations, where you have to drain yourself (mind, energy) at the very start.
Chose your circle wisely. Listen to your intuition. If you think, this is not your relation(friend, relative, or partner), then it is not yours. Don’t get deeply connected. Draw the boundaries and be safe.
You will find people like you, the number is huge. Try to get yourself out of the toxic relations and then you will eventually see the world is there to welcome you with open arms and heart. Give importance to those people who are there to stand by your thick and thins, not to the one who is in complaining mode and trying to hurt you. No matter what you will do, they will not understand, this is their Guna. You carry on with your Guna dear.
Stay Blessed!
